Whether we are ready or not, 2019 is here. Traditionally, around this time of year, we begin to make the same mental checklists that we make every year with the unrealistic goals that aren’t even genuine. I am here to intervene and say that your goals this year should not be something that was compared and calculated alongside whatever you’ve heard others say that they plan to embark on in the new year. This year, let’s vow to make realistic goals that make us happy.
Let self-care be your primary business venture. When we invest our time and effort into ourselves, we prepare ourselves to shine longer. This should be a stress-free venture. Putting your mental state first only ensures that the other areas of your life are tight and polished. Self Care is a very inclusive umbrella, and can come in many forms; it adapts to fit the end goals that we have in mind.
Self-care can look like anything from wellness, to “beating your face.” Self-care is the art of self-appreciation and self-preservation. Bottling up your own positive energy and positive thoughts and saving it for trying times is even a form of self-care.
We can change the world by starting within, it’s true. When we find a place of peace, understanding, and purpose; we are able to be the best version of ourselves. I am making 2019 the year of Self-Care because I realized that I cannot wait for others to initiate the change that I need to start within myself. No one can care for me, mentally and emotionally, more than I can care for myself. Trust me, it’s never selfish to make sure that you are good first.
Self-Love is at the forefront alongside Self-care. Over the past couple of months, I have closely evaluated my need for validation and even those who are around me. Often times, we inadvertently give others the power to shape the way that we see ourselves. The simplest things that people say or do force us into a deep reflection of who we are.
When people have negative images of who they are, they tend to put those bad vibes out into the universe. The closer you are to these people who release these toxic vibes, the more likely it is to rub off on you. We are all guilty of putting out those bad vibes and wanting validation from others. We all have been in a space where we have let the average number of likes that we receive on Instagram guide the way that we think of ourselves.
The journey to self-love and a positive self-image is not always an easy one. I’m not sure that anyone has gotten this down perfectly. The society that we live in is very cookie-cutter driven; we know that. However, this is a must. Standing strong in who you are and establishing an unconditional love for yourself must become a priority for this upcoming year and season of your life. Let’s do this together.
We do this thing every year where we make these weird goals knowing that we aren’t really about that life! When honestly speaking, we never reach these goals because after January is over, we run out of motivation.
This year, I think that is key that we make goals that we can and will keep. Things that we are changing because we genuinely want to change, not because it’s a goal that everyone else makes or because someone told you that you need to do something.
As you can see, I love to write and I enjoy adventures and impromptu photoshoots with my friends in wooded areas. I also like to draw and paint, even though I am not the best. I have started taking action steps toward my goal by setting up scheduled ways for me to foster that creativity even more. I auditioned for a play through the theatre department at my school, and I got the role! I am also going to be looking for some ways to share my poetry and spoken word in community-based events this year.
Write More, and on a consistent basis
I am so excited about being able to share my thoughts and feelings with the world through my writing. This upcoming year, I want to put myself in a position to work on my craft more. I want to receive more feedback, take a writing class, and explore new genres that will inspire me to take risks with the things that I write. Once I do all of that, I want to motivate myself to write more and to keep up with what I start. I am planning to make a monthly schedule for personal writing deadlines that accommodate my school schedule and extracurricular activities, but this is something that I definitely want to do and stick to.